Sidney and Betty’s Branch

A comprehensive history was written
by my father Sidney in 1982/3 after my constantly “chivvying” him to give me
some idea of my roots.
Sidney (Shalom ben Avram) (20th June
1906 –3rd January 1987), was the 6th of seven siblings
born to Abraham (Avram Abba ben
Benjamin David) and Leah Sabel (Leah bet Shmuel). He
married Betty Rubenstein (5th January 1907 – 4th
June1997) on 18th March 1928, and had one child, Peter, born 29th
April 1931.
Peter was sent to a boarding school
in Crewkerne Somerset at the age of 9 for primary
education, to escape the bombing during the Second World War and afterwards to
a boarding school in Malvern Worcestershire. The school was ironically
“evacuated” to Harrow 4 miles from home because the buildings at Malvern were
requisitioned by the government for the development of Radar. Peter qualified
as a solicitor in 1954 (now retired) and married Sybil Kathlyn Flack on 16th
June 1957. They live in Greater London
and have two daughters, Sara Naomi born 28th December 1962 and
Juliette Lisa born 19th August 1966.
Sara
Educated at Haberdashers Askes , Sara is interested in painting as a hobby. She runs
her own business creating jewellery from semi precious stones. Sara married
Gerald on 26th March 1989, and lives in Greater London. They have two daughters, Natasha
Rachel born 19th December 1992 and Chloe Melissa born 15th
October 1996. Both are at Haberdashers.
Juliette
Educated at Queens
College and Leeds University,
where she read history of art, Juliette qualified as a solicitor and works in
the City. She married Russell on 1st September 1991 and lives
in Greater London. They have a son William Stanford born
on 30th June 1996 and a daughter Imogen Bettina born on 11th
December 1998. Both are at local preparatory schools.
The above is a brief resume of our
family now. Set out below is the Sabel Saga as written by my father. There are
some minor amendments but the original has been retained in the “hard copy” for
those wishing to see it.
THE
SABEL SAGA
As
seen by Sidney Sabel in 1982/3
(PLEASE
NOTE: This document was written in 1982/3 and partially updated in 1986, but
bear in mind that since then time has moved on and much has happened to the
people mentioned and sadly many are no longer living).
I was born on 20
June 1906, sixth of a family of seven. My mother told me that I was born during
a blistering heat-wave, and I was a very welcome arrival. My mother's name was
Leah (Leah bet Shmuel), my father Abraham (Avram Abba ben Benjamin David)
was a master tailor, and had a workshop in partnership with his younger brother
Barnet who lived next door. The workshop was built at the end of their two
gardens (No's 1 & 3 Gladstone
Avenue, East Ham) and there was a right of way adjacent to No. 1 which gave
access for the employees into the workshop.
My father was born in a small village in Russia named Vidz in Kovna Geberna,
and he was the second eldest of a family of nine. At the age of nine, he was
apprenticed to a journeyman tailor and learnt his trade in a hard school. The
family in Vidz were very poor, and lived mostly on
potatoes. My father tells of borrowing his father's boots to go out into the snow and ice.
His dream was to get away from Russia with the
pogroms by Cossacks, and eventual conscription into the army where he would be
treated as a despised Jew. He eventually scraped together and borrowed enough
money to bribe his way across the frontier and, at the age of about 16, he left
here and, going through Germany,
got
to a port to embark for London.
There was a regular organised route for this journey, and all that was needed
was sufficient money to bribe the
frontier guards, and cover the fare. In London
he had the address of friends who sheltered him until he could earn some money,
and become self supporting. This happened about he year 1887. When he had
established himself he sent for his brothers and sisters, and with Barnet's
help, eventually, his parents- (Benjamin, David and Sarah).
At this time my mother was making similar
plans. She too came from a small village where she was brought up by an aunt
following the early death of her mother, and the re-marriage of her father to a
younger sister. She was taught to work on fur garments, and I gather she was
very efficient. She was able to earn a living in this trade although she had
difficulty in persuading her employer that one so young was so knowledgeable.
The centre for Jewish immigrants was Whitechapel, and my mother being an
attractive young lady (she was about 23) was introduced to several eligible
young men until she met my father, and they decided to marry in 1892.
They lived in a couple of rooms in Princelet Street
where a son named Solly, and two daughters, Katie and
Rachel were born.
My father was ambitious and opened his workshop together
with Barnet, and arranged to tailor jackets for a city firm of bespoke tailors
named Watts and Christie who had a high class
but conservative clientele. It was on the strength of this that they bought two
houses from Sir John Bethel who was the local MP and a building developer. He
took them to see the property in his carriage. Barnet occupied No 1 and Abraham
No 3. These were newly built, and they had
the workshop built at the bottom of the garden of No
1. The firm for whom they tailored arranged to install one the first telephones
in the area, the number was East Ham 2501.
My sister Mary was born here in 1900,
and Louis in 1902. My oldest brother who became known as Charles, and later as
Chilly was 13¼ years older than me, and approximately 2 years divided each
later birth until Louis arrived, and I was 4¼ years
later.
Trade prospered and an extension to the
workshop was built at the bottom of the No 3 garden (No planning permission was
needed in those days). The workshop employed father's brother Mark,
brothers-in-law Harris Barst and Maurice Rosenbloom as well as a staff of about 9 depending on the
season.
At this point of our history I can rely more on my own
memory, and less on what I have been told. The building of the extension was a
great event for me, and I can remember all the adventures I had climbing over
the partly built structure when the workmen were away. I can remember various
relations arriving from Russia,
and being given a home while securing their own accommodation or travelling to
the U.S.
Many of these were my mother's relations whom she didn't even know. Having been
brought up by this aunt, she was unaware of the half brothers and sisters that
were born of her fathers second marriage, although of course they had the same
surname - Swidler. Nevertheless they were accepted readily and one of these
whom I knew as Uncle Harold started a fire, by leaving a lighted cigarette on a chiffonier at night. This was really exciting for me, and fortunately
the damage was slight, and confined to the furniture.
My brother Harry was born about this time, January 1909,
but I have no recollection of his presence until some time later. We had a
live-in maid although their wages in those days were a mere-pittance. At this
period fathers brother Mark, sisters Eva and Annie lived within an area of
2/300 yards from us, but Barnet lived next door of course. The fence between us
was taken down and we had use of the whole area with ready access to each others
homes.
Barnet and Minnie had five children - Israel (later
James), Aby who died in 1919 in the 'flu epidemic at
the age of nineteen, Charles, Jack and Hannah.
Mark and Becky had three childen, Hannah, Sidney and Mortimer.
Eva and Harris Barst
had four children, Sarah, Jenny, Louis and Alice.
Annie and Maurice Rosenbloom
had one son Louis.
We were in almost daily contact so we always had lots of
company, and our two houses were the centre for all to come together. All our
generation went to Kensington
Avenue School,
and we were almost the only Jews that attended there.
My father and Barnet were very hard working often starting
at 5 am and during the high season I have known them work all night. Barnet had
learned to read and write, and looked after the "clerical" side of
the business. Father and Mother could not read or write English their education
having been solely confined to Hebrew. Father could however sign
his name and was naturalised in about 1900. His birthday was on Simchat Torah, but my mother never knew hers, so we
celebrated both on that day. My father took a very keen interest in the Shul
which he helped to build up, became president, and was eventually made life
president. Barnet was for some time the treasurer.
Originally our
only form of lighting was gas, and the heating was by coal fire although we did
have an improved form of fire which incorporated a boiler which heated the
water. Eventually we had electricity installed, and had gas fires in the
bedrooms and drawing rooms - this was indeed opulence.
There was no radio in those days and we
would amuse ourselves by gathering round the piano and singing, mostly
sentimental ballads. Jim and Ray had nice voices. A very vivid memory was of
washing days every Monday. This upset the routine of the day, and the meals
were very basic. I am on record as having expressed my disgust at this
disturbance to our routine. Every Friday morning my mother went by workmans' train (tickets had to be bought and used before 8 am) to Aldgate East, and came back with two huge shopping
bags laden with goods from the "lane".
My oldest
brother who was now called Charles went to Clarks College
after leaving the elementary school and then got a job in an advertising
agency. My sister Katie (who is known as Kit) went on to the East Ham Technical College
and later became secretary to a firm in Barking owned by Oscar Philips. Ray
went into the workshop, and became what is known as button-hole hand, and a very
good one. Mary worked in a local dress shop, Koskys.
Louis started as a junior in a firm called Budgets who were tea merchants.
I was eight when
the 1914 war broke out, and still have remains of a diary to the news of the
war, and realized afterwards how much distorted propaganda we were fed with.
There was a certain amount of anti-semitism at school
but it didn't seem vicious. We were called "shonk"
and "sheeny" but there was no violence. I
can remember playing around the streets with an iron hoop which I controlled
with a "skinner". This was a short hooked iron rod with a wooden
handle. We weren't given a lot of toys to play with, but my sisters would fill
our stockings at Christmas so that we didn't
feel we were missing too much.
I can remember being given a tricycle at quite a young
age, and my older cousins (they were only about a year older) being eager to
show me how to ride it.
The
war didn't affect us too much although Chilly and Jim were expecting to be
conscripted into the army, but to enable then to have a choice of regiments
they volunteered and opted for the Royal Engineers. There were air raids by
Zeppelins, and we all cheered when one was set on fire at Ciffley
by a Capt. Leafe Robinson. I recall a daring daylight
raid one Saturday morning by about 30 planes. We watched as they flew into the
heart of London, and they were not recognised,
and challenged until they started dropping bombs on the city of London. I later went to Beckton to see the wreck of a German plane which had been
brought dawn. We had rationing of certain foods including sugar, and my sisters
decided to give up their ration in order that my grandfather could have the
eleven pieces of sugar he enjoyed in his huge mug of tea.
It
was in the early days of the war that Chilly was courting Millie Sakelovitch and for some reason that I still cannot fathom
out he used to take me with him by tram, and I used to play with the boys and
girls Sake who were around my age. I was particularly attracted to Dora (later
she chose to be known as Doris). Mr Isaac Sakelovitch (later became Sake) was a "Luntzman" of my father, and they had brought Chilly
and Millie together. I was given sets of cigarette cards which were included in
packets of cigarettes, and which they took (with the customers’ permission)
from the packets as they sold them in their tobacconist shop at Poplar where
they lived. I had an impressive album of these cards, one of these sets being
of recruiting posters. Much to my regret I sold these to the presser - Mr Gipstein who worked for my father - for the
princely sum of five shillings. This was a lot of money for a kid in those
days, but Mr Gipstein must have known what he was
doing; can you imagine their value today. At the age of twelve, I gained a
scholarship to a school known as the Higher Elementary. This school was
experimental, it was mixed, and the class I was in consisted of the first
twenty boys and the first twenty girls. The education was inclined to the
commercial rather than the classical as was the East Ham Technical College
which Kit and Harry attended. However our syllabus included chemistry, wood and
metal work, French, shorthand and bookkeeping.
I was
very keen on sport, but my parents frowned on these activities and I mostly
kept my participation on a low key. I did however join with some of my fellow
students to form a cricket team, and I was very proud to save twenty five
shillings (£1.25) and buy myself a "Jack Hobbs" bat. My parents were
not exactly cinema fans and we had to scrounge money from my sister to go to
the pictures as we called it. There were Saturday morning matinees for children
where one could see the exciting "Exploits of Elaine" with Pearl White and the "Clutching Hand". These
were shown in serial form and always finished at the most sensationally
dangerous situation for Pearl White, and you
were offered the opportunity of paying to see the next episode the following
week.
Chilly and Jim were duly accepted in the
Royal Engineers, and were stationed in billets at Woburn Sands. Jim rose to the rank of
sergeant, and had a good office job. Chilly was drafted to East Africa and was trained to maintain telephone lines etc
and while there, he caught malaria. Before going abroad he married Millie in a
military wedding at the East Ham and Manor Park
Synagogue. She continued living at her parents home, and
worked at making cigarettes at a small shop her father had in Sidney Street. She
also had an allowance as a soldiers wife. Chilly came home after the war in
hospital blue still suffering from malaria. When he had sufficiently recovered
he was demobilized, and his in-laws suggested he opened a tobacconists,
encouraging him to tender for a disused
railway goods depot at 10
Commercial Road. They promised to supply the
necessary finance. His bid was accepted, but his in-laws let him down . My
father came to the rescue, and with
the aid of loans from his brothers Barnet and Mark raised the required amount.
The shop had to have a front built,
and a partition was erected half way down the length to provide living
accommodation; the flat above being occupied by protected tenants.
Some time later Kit married Jim with a reception at the Elysee Rooms in Bayswater. I have pleasant memories of
accompanying one of the Daimlers of the several which were hired to pick up
relatives which was the practice at this time; this was a real treat. There
were some unusual circumstances in connection with this wedding. After the date
was fixed, Becky Deutch arranged her wedding a few
weeks before this. Kit and Jim were furious and brought their date forward to a
week before Becky's. Jim in his teens was manager of a Letts
stationery shop, and went to business wearing
a top hat.
Ray was the next to get
married. She was introduced to Tom Wise, He opened a tailor shop in Clapham,
but unfortunately, financially, things were not very good.
Mary was a
particularly attractive girl, and once won a beauty contest when her sisters
sent her photograph to a magazine holding one of these contests. She met Aby Wolfers at a Jewish Club in Forest Gate, and he courted her with great persistence
and sophisticated charm. They were married, the reception being held at the East Ham
Town Hall. Aby had a shop called "The London
Surplus Stores" and they lived in West Kensington.
He was doing well, but his main interest was bridge at which game he became a
master and represented England.
When Louis left his job with the tea
merchants he became apprenticed to uncle Ike Weinstein in 1919. Ike was an
accomplished cabinet maker who married my mothers half sister Milly and they had a son Mick (Myer) and a daughter Doris.
They lived in the East End in very primitive
conditions. This apprenticeship was abortive as Ike was out of a job nine
months later due to the fall in the
demand for handmade furniture, and in 1920 Louis went to the U.S. and stayed
with the Berlyns. "Nachamah" Berlyn was my mothers only 100% sister and married "Berrila" (Barnet) Berlyn. They had some seven children
and Louis stayed with Charles and Ibra Berlyn. The
Berlyn parents came from Russia
and went on to Brighton where they lived a
hand to mouth existence, the boys selling fruit from a barrow. They all
emigrated to Worcester Mass. shortly before
the 1914 war.
Their eldest daughter Betsy died at
quite a young age from a tumour on the brain during the time that Louis was
there. The only one of the first generation still alive is Katie, and she is
well cared for by her nephews, particularly Hyman's boys Shelden
and Gerry for whom she did quite a lot
in the past. Louis returned from the States in 1922 after staying for some time
with Rose Pearl Grace's parents. He did a
little commercial travelling for a firm making ladies blouses, but eventually
opened a shop in the Ilford Pioneer Market selling various items of
haberdashery. On 1 January 1928 he married Hannah at our local shul and the
reception was at the Town Hall. Initially they lived at No 1 Gladstone Avenue.
When I left school in my sixteenth year,
I had no inclination to continue studying for a profession although my father would
have dearly loved this. I applied for one or two junior office jobs but had no
luck as these vacancies were quickly filled. It then occurred to me
that it might be a good idea to go
into the workshop to learn
tailoring, and so ensure that I could earn some sort of living anywhere in the
world if needs be. My father wouldn't hear of it so, foolishly I went to the
Royal Albert Docks where the Australian ships docked, and tried for a job as a
cabin boy. I was told that they only
engaged crews in Australia,
but if they were short before sailing I might be engaged. I realized that I was
probably asking for trouble, but thought it would give me some experience of
the world. When I told my parents of this
episode I was enlisted into the workshop staff without more ado.
Incidentally I had frequently passed the gates to the
docks when making for the Woolwich free ferry where I would travel back and
forth across the Thames, and
imagine I was cruising. I worked under my fathers direction for three
years, and although I could hold down a job in any tailoring workshop we agreed
that there was little future in pushing a needle. It was at this time that
brother-in-law Aby was seeking to expand
his London
Store business. He obtained premises in Bishopsgate
belonging to the L.N.E. Railway. I was made a very junior partner with the
little money I had saved and we soon opened up. However Aby
was disappointed with the first weeks takings, and as he had not yet signed the
lease he just cleared out. Thus for a while I was unemployed, and at that time
I was very keen on dancing and one could go to tea
dances at the Kit Kat and the Pop in the West End and dance to the bands of
Jack Hylton, Harry
Roy etc at very modest prices. Later Aby took
premises in Chiswick High Road,
and I was installed as manager at an appropriately small salary. After about
twelve months I looked for an increase but Aby took a
poor view of this. My father was the prime mover behind all this, and he
suggested that we bought Aby's share, and I took over
the shop. Aby agreed with some bad grace, and I
became a shopkeeper. All this time I had been travelling by workmans'
train to open up by 9 am. At this period of my
life I was rather orthodox and I inserted an advert in the Jewish Chronicle
seeking kosher lunches in the area. I had a reply from a Mrs Harris in Bedford Park,
and that was my first introduction to the Jewish community in West
London. One of Mrs Harris's sons Jack told me of
the Hammersmith and West Kensington Social and Literary Club which had its headquarters
in Brook Green Shul, and one of its activities was the Jordan tennis club in
Acton. Being keen on tennis and having played quite a lot with my old
school club I jumped at the opportunity and joined. It was here
that I met Betty, although strangely enough I met her sister Hetty first and went out to tea with her. Two years later
on 18 March 1928 Betty and I were married at the Grand Palais
in Whitechapel. We chose this venue as it was the best kosher hall situated
between Hammersmith where Betty lived, and East Ham. We were actually married
in the hall, and what was unusual at that time, at a time later than 3 pm. I
had found out that while Christians were not allowed to marry after this time,
Jews and Quakers were exempt. This meant we were all in evening dress and saved
the difficulty of having to change.
Harry left the "tech" at 16
and went into an office. Later he worked with me in the Chiswick shop, and then
represented a firm of trouser makers (J. Temple
& Sons) with whom I did business. They agreed to his taking a week off to
look after my shop while I was on honeymoon at the East
Cliff Court
Hotel in Bournemouth
which was then kosher. Harry met Gladys at Rose Deutch's
wedding, fell in love and were soon married. Harry bought the London Surplus
Stores from Aby who was now in the business of
installing fruit machines in bridge clubs, and
investing the proceeds in property. It
was at this time that Aby moved to Princes Park Avenue, Golders Green. Harry
lived in a house in Barnes, occupying the ground floor and subletting the first
floor - at one time to Ray and family.
My father and Uncle Barnet retired when my Father was
around 65, and his brother a couple of years younger. My Father had a small
income from two houses he had bought and from subletting the first floor at No
3.
The two
brothers with their wives made a grand trip
to the US
in 1930/1 visiting all their relatives having a super holiday returning on the
R.M.S. Berengaria. The workshop stood empty but the
brothers still pottered about there doing family jobs and private orders. One
of the events which took place there was the Golden Wedding party for my
paternal grandparents. This must have been in the early twenties. Louis Ross
fixed up some music. He of course played the violin, and he instructed me how to play a couple of notes
which served as an accompaniment to the
tune he played.
My Mother suffered badly from
rheumatism, and her relief was a visit to the local vapour baths (bod) every Tuesday. Father was a great walker, and when he
retired he often took a day return to Southend to sun
himself. A weekly visit to the local Russian
vapour baths was a family routine, and attendance by the Jewish males in the East End to a more basic type called "Sheftsik" was very popular. This operated in similar
fashion to what is now known as a Sauna, the heat and steam being created by
pouring water on a large heated stone. The hygiene in this establishment left a
lot to be desired.
Chilly's son
Humphrey was born at the back room of his shop, but they later got possession
of the upper part where they lived when the second son Stanley was born. They
worked all the hours that God gave and repaid all the loans in due course.
Chilly still suffered attacks of malaria, and had to limit the amount of work
he could do. Millie was a great help in the business. After Humphrey left
school he went to the US and stayed
with relatives there. However he never seemed to find a niche, and when America entered the 2nd world war he was
conscripted into their army, and served in the Panama zone. Stanley was in the British army but was
discharged with Hodgkin’s Disease from which he died at the age of 22. Humphrey
returned to England
and entered employment with his parents in their shop. He married Betty's
youngest sister Lily and lived in a flat at the White House where Chilly and
Millie had lived for a while during the war, but had now returned to 10
Commercial Road. Susan was born while Humphrey and Lily still lived there, but they
later moved to a house in Harrow. Humphrey
contracted Multiple Sclerosis, and while he continued work for some time he was
eventually completely crippled and died at the age of 42. Chilly died at the
age of 69 from a heart attack while in
the shop just before Humphrey's demise. The shop was compulsorily purchased by
the GLC for road improvement schemes, and Millie was re-housed in a high rise
flat in Maida Vale. Several years later she died in the Middlesex Hospital
from lung cancer.
Kit and Jim first lived in Clapham, Jim being in turns a
cinema manager, shop keeper then again manager of a newly built super cinema
for which he organised the grand opening. They lived in Netheravon Road,
Chiswick the cinema was known as the Commodore Hammersmith, now an office block
occupied by Qantas Airways. Joan is their oldest child, then Clive, and David.
After Jim left the Commodore he managed cinemas in Croydon
and Southampton simultaneously. They moved to Croydon,
and it was during this period (war time) that Jim died from a heart attack at
the age of 45 while giving witness at a trial. Kit carried on managing the
cinema at Croydon. Before Jim's death they moved for
a time to Godstone and on one occasion when Jim was unwell he was
visited by his friend and Doctor Ansell Fry. His wife
Busha was with him, and John was sitting in the car
outside. Busha called him in, and introduced him to
the family. He was a student at Guys
Hospital at the time and
was very shy. However John and Joan did get together and eventually married.
Joan did some part time nursing, and later joined the land army (this before
she married) Joan and John lived in Thornton
Heath and have two children James and Dimity. James is married to Susannah and has two daughters Xanthe
and Abigail. Dimity has two sons,
Charles and Oliver. Clive was training to be an actuary but was called into the
army and took part in the invasion of Europe being in the tank corps. After the war he joined
the atomic establishment at Harwell. He married Sonya Shine and had three boys
- Jimmy, Colin and Kenneth. He died from cancer in his early forties. Sonya
took the job of teacher/ housekeeper at Carmel College.
David married Beryl, and they have two adopted children, Andrew and Rachel.
Jimmy died of a rare heart disease in 1984 aged about 30
Ray and Tom had five children; Cynthia, Hilda, Margaret,
Ruth and David. Tom died from a heart attack aged 53, and following this Ray
received some help from our parents, and later got a job in the civil service. They
moved to the first floor flat of the house in Barnes occupied by Harry and
Gladys. Cynthia won a State scholarship to Oxford and specialized in languages. Cynthia is married and has two boys. She
lives in Tilehurst near Reading and travels to
conferences etc as interpreter. She is now a grandmother. Hilda married Ricky
Horn and has three daughters, Judith being the oldest, and Helen and Susan are
twins. They all married. Hilda is now divorced, and resumed a job with the Post
Office. She has a nice voice and sings in the Shul choir. Margaret is not
married and has a very good career with the Foreign office for whom she has
travelled worldwide. Ruth is married to Don
Foley who is a successful estate agent in South London.
They have no children and have a house in Sanderstead.
Ruth won
a scholarship to St Andrews University,
was a lecturer and paints. David was a Colonel in the Australian army; he went there with his mother and Margaret and stayed when
they returned to England.
He eventually married and has two children. Ray had remarried in Australia to a man named Roger but he died while
she was in England.
While in Australia
she had a serious stomach operation, and was never very robust afterwards. She
contracted a disease of the blood but she went with Margaret to several
countries where Margaret was posted. Margaret looked after her mother very
well, but it was all rather a lot for her to cope with. Ray died in London aged 80 while
living with Margaret in Croydon.
Mary and Aby
had three children, Philip, David and Louise. They decided to emigrate to New Zealand in
1938 due to the imminence of war. However they found New
Zealand was not a suitable economy in which to invest,
and they moved on to Sydney in Australia where
Aby invested in property and continued his bridge
activities. Both sons studied medicine and were very successful. After the war
Mary and Aby visited London, Aby still
playing bridge, but he now preferred to be known as Bill. By now he had a serious heart condition, and
he eventually died from this when back in Sydney.
Before emigrating Aby and Jim started a
"Tote" club in Camberwell. This was a place where punters could back
horses and dogs legally at tote odds, and there were other club facilities.
However things did not go as well as was hoped and the club was closed, the
families ending up bad friends. The reason for this break I cannot recall, but
I know Aby was a difficult person to get along with.
Philip married nurse Rita, while in England doing a post graduate
course in anaesthetics. Mary was in London
at the time, and was much aggrieved that she was not consulted, and was
confronted with a fait accompli. They all returned to Australia, and
soon after, Philip was killed in a tragic car accident. They had three
children, Anne, Jane and Philip. Rita re-married to Dennis Gentle but remained
a very devoted daughter-in-law to Mary, proving Mary's assessment of the
marriage wrong. David married Ruth who is a concert pianist and had three
children, Miriam, Peter and Jonathan. David gave up a lucrative practice in Melbourne, and came to London with his family to study tropical medicine and population control.
However, David and Ruth were not happy, and they were divorced. They both
remarried, David to Helen whom he knew
in Australia
and they have a daughter Aviva, and Ruth married Michael. David gave up medicine and derived his main
income from property in Australia
and also writes, and is much of a globetrotter. He held the position of
Director of Commonwealth Population Control under the British Government for a while but found it pointless and
frustrating and resigned*. Louise married Henry Kobler
who is an engineer and they have two children. Louise lives just outside Sydney.
Mary
paid regular visits to England but later had severe arthritis, and blood
problems. She was unable to look after herself and
spent two years in a comfortable Jewish home for old folk but was never
reconciled to this. She died at the age of 80.
Louis and Hannah moved to Ilford and had
three children; Michael, Brian and Gillian. During the war Hannah carried on
the business when Louis was called up into the army. The business had changed
from it's original style, and specialised in boys wear. Louis was drafted into
the Signal Corps and served in Africa. Michael
served in the R.A.F. and went into his fathers business when he was
demobilised. However he was never happy
there and as he was keen on photography he eventually made that his career.
After taking a job in a retail photographers he started his own business in
Newton Abbot, Devon. He married Ann (non
Jewish) and has four children.
Brian went to the London School of Economics, and studied
law, qualifying as a solicitor with an L.L.B. He then left London,
and worked in Plymouth
where he married a relation of one of the partners. Her name is Frances and she
also is not Jewish. They have four children. Brian has now left the profession,
and after a course at Exeter
University qualified as a
social worker. Gillian worked in an office and shared a flat in Town with girl
friends. She is a very good tennis player, and won a number of competitions.
She eventually went abroad and worked for the United Nations, first in Geneva and later in Rome
where she met and married a fellow employee Robert Thomas. They have a flat in Rome but have no children
and seem to be very happy. At this time Louis retired and they moved into a
modern flat at Newbury
Park. They were both very
active in the Jewish senior citizens club and made many friends. Hannah died
suddenly in 1973 from a heart attack while visiting her family in the West
Country.
Betty and I lived in Bedford Park
for about seven years. Peter was born there in 1931 and soon after, I took a
shop in Southall with £300 I borrowed from my Father, but business was tough.
We later changed the business of the shop in Chiswick from Men’s wear to Ladies
wear with the trading name of Marlene. Betty was thus able to use her talents
again there. However the shop was too small to achieve any worthwhile success
and we sold it to a tobacconists, and with the premium took a much larger shop
in Southall which was actually a double shop and had two self contained flats
over it. These premises were newly built and we occupied the first floor,
subletting the second. Our expenses were small, and we got along nicely enough.
The interior of the shop was quite large and we had table tennis parties there
by removing the gown rails which were normally in the centre of the shop. Mary
and Aby, Ray and Adolph Sidlow
were frequent participants, Ray was a friend of Mary. She was Scottish, her
maiden name was Segal and was a school teacher. Adolph was Belgian who came to England after
the 1914/18 war. Also many friends who were keen table tennis players. Betty's
school girl friend Molly had married Harold Duval who was in the food business,
and they opened a delicatessen shop in Southall. He was a keen fisherman and
discovered a really "off the beaten track" spot on the Thames at Bablockhythe. Bablockhythe is just west of Oxford and was reached by a ferry on to which
you drove your car and pulled yourself across by chain. We jointly rented a converted railway carriage there and went to it every weekend. It was so
quiet and peaceful that one lost all sense of a world outside. When the 1939
war began we evacuated there closing the ladies shop while I carried on with
the men’s shop. Kit and Jim and family came down in a small coach and Hannah
and Louis and family all joined us, although they found that there
appeared to be no immediate danger in London we re-opened the ladies
shop, Betty and her sister Lily commuting in alternate weeks. The railway
carriage had primitive facilities and we rented a house at the nearby area
known as Botley which was rather nearer Oxford, and Betty's
sister Hetty joined us there. The house was called
"Linga Longa".
All this time I was a volunteer in the auxiliary fire service (A.F.S.) which I
had joined prior to the war. There was a period of what was known as the
"phoney war" and we all returned to London. When the air raids did start we
resorted to a semi underground brick and concrete shelter which
we had built, it had mains electricity, and was fitted with bunks and
facilities for meals etc. I was doing regular duties in the A.F.S. where as an
experienced driver, my services were in demand. I was given deferment from
conscription on the grounds ! of being a one man
business, and when eventually I had to go I opted for the R.A.F. but due to my
training in the fire service I was directed to be a fireman. Meanwhile my manager was called up into the
army, but due to his flat feet they couldn't fit him with army boots, and he
was discharged. This was very lucky for me for, as I was making up his pay to civilian
standard he felt obligated to return to me, and he was able to carry on my business
whilst I was away.
When we returned to London
we sent Peter to a boarding
school at Crewkerne at the age of nine. This was a
heartbreaking experience for all of us, but circumstances demanded a move of
this sort. After three years we transferred him to Malvern
College which at that time was sharing
the facilities at Harrow. This was nearer
home, and the education was far superior. During the blitz we had raids
regularly every night and had several near misses. My parents were still in
East Ham and a remarkable incident occurred one night. Most of the local
relations were gathered together at No 3 when they heard a terrific explosion
quite near. My mother went to the
front door to investigate, and found what
appeared to be a boiler barring her way on the doorstep. Wandering what crazy
person could deliver a boiler on a night like this, she made her way past it
and wandered into the street where
a policeman grabbed her and led her away. What had happened was that a plane
had dropped a pair of land mines (they were dropped by parachute in pairs,
being attached to each wing in pairs and had to balance). One had landed half way down Gladstone
Avenue and exploded with devastating effect, the other had it's parachute
caught on the chimney stack of No 3 and the actual mine had not made contact
with the ground and was swinging free. All the area was evacuated including the
persons in the house, and my father, and mother didn't know what had
happened to each other until the next day since they were each sent to different
centres as the time.
During
my service in the N.F.S. (this is what we were now known as), I became a
discussion group leader and went from station to station promoting and leading
discussions on chosen subjects. Prior to the
opening of the second front I was transferred to a
mobile unit to travel anywhere in the country as
a self contained unit in an emergency. When the invasion of France began we were moved to a camp near Southampton. Our job was to give fire cover to the
loading of drums of petrol on to ships crossing to Normandy. We
had special foam apparatus for dealing with such fires, and as long as nothing
happened all went well. One day, I was approached by the officer in charge
while at the dockside, and told that I
was to be sent back to Southall as all
the windows of the Merlane shop had been blasted, and
although no-one was hurt, I was needed to assist
my wife. Actually Betty had done very well; she had pleaded with our builder
that she was "a woman alone" and was given priority in having the
windows boarded up. The damage at this stage of the war was caused by flying
bombs which were launched from France and Western Germany with sufficient fuel
to various parts of S.E. England, but mainly London, and when this fuel was
exhausted the bomb fell to earth.
Malvern College, which had been
requisitioned by the government to house certain "boffins" for radar
research, moved back to Malvern in 1946/7 and in 1947 we had one of our
severest winters, and best summers. In 1947 Betty and I took a long promised
holiday to the US
and met our cousins over there for the first time. Betty had aunts, uncles and
cousins and I had the Goldbergs, Saybells,
Berlyns and the Swidlers. We had contact with some of my mothers relations
during the war when they came to England in
the services. Some of these half sisters and brothers had given their soldier
sons our address, and also the younger generation of the Berlyns had visited
us. We were invited to some obscure cousins in Syracuse, and met literally dozens of
relations who claimed various degrees of kinship. One of the ideas in making
this visit was to consider emigrating, but we decided that we preferred our way
of life to theirs. In 1949 Peter was
articled to the solicitors, Gouldens. We had hoped he would go to university first, but
the authorities there insisted that he did his army service first. Feeling that
this might interrupt the rhythm of his studies we arranged that he be articled,
and this entitled him to deferment. He qualified in 1954, and was rejected for
army service because of previous attack of jaundice requiring a careful diet. He liked
to play the piano and had some fine teachers who, whilst they encouraged him to go
further with his music assuring him that he would derive much pleasure from it,
pointed out the financial precariousness of making a career of it. In 1957, he
married Sybil Flack whom he met at a party, and they have two daughters Sara
and Juliette. Unfortunately Sybil lost both her parents within the space of six
months, and her only brother Julian died of a heart attack two years later.
Betty had a coronary thrombosis in 1951 and has had to be
careful ever since. The amazing part of this was that our doctor and I decided
that it would be better if Betty was not told of the exact nature of the heart
trouble as it would unduly alarm her. It was not until some 25 years later that
the truth slipped out. When she heard she sat down and cried ! We moved from Southall to a flat in Haven Green Court,
Ealing. Betty retired in 1970 and I followed a couple of years later.
Harry had taken over Aby's shop
in Hammersmith, and lived in Barnes. They have two children Pamela and Robert.
They also started a business supplying and cleaning overalls on a maintenance
basis known as Lloyds Overall Service. This went very well, Gladys putting in a
lot of work in this venture. They eventually sold out to the Initial Towel Co. for a
handsome sum. Harry employed cousin Joe Zolawski in
his shop but unfortunately there was some unpleasantness in the manner of his
leaving. They moved to Delamere Road, Ealing where
they took an active part in the community. When war came Harry joined up in the
Intelligence Corps. He had a flair for languages and rose to the rank of
captain. While stationed in Cairo he visited Palestine as it was then
known on one of his leaves and became Zionistically
minded.
When my Father died in his sleep in 1942
aged 72, my mother wanted to stay on in East Ham and have Ray living with her.
Ray was however persuaded to change her mind in spite of the many advantages
which would have accrued. Consequently Mother chose to stay with Gladys who had
her sister Bessie staying, and with their children were running a household.
Mother stayed with us for a while at our invitation, but she decided that as
Betty was in business and there was-no one else around during the day, it would
suit her better at Gladys's. Mother suffered from an asthmatic heart condition,
and she died in Action Cottage Hospital from cardiac asthma in 1945 aged
77.Gladys was looking after the shop while Harry was away, and when he was demobolised he found it difficult to settle down. When in
1948 the State of Israel
was proclaimed, he volunteered to help in its defence against the Arab states.
With his army expertise, he was made security officer for Jerusalem. At this
time there was a recruiting drive in England
for service in Israel, and having previously expressed an opinion that we
couldn't buy Palestine and would have to fight for it I felt it incumbent on me to offer my services, but they
were not interested in my fire fighting experience or my driving, and suggested
I would be more useful fund raising in England.
Harry and his family all emigrated to Israel and his invaluable work there is history. He came
to London for a year or two to promote Aliyah, and then
again as Director of the J.N.F. for three years, during which time Robert went
to Carmel College. Harry returned to his job at the Keren Kayemeth between times maintaining his seniority
there. He also went to South Africa to promote the J.N.F. work there, and has made
friends all over the world. He was very well known and lionised in Jerusalem for his radio broadcasts of the news in English
under the name of Aryah Sagall.
At the age of 69 he was planning a grand retirement programme when he died
suddenly on the operating table following stomach pains. For two or three years
before this Gladys was having treatment for cancer which has been very
successful.
Pamela married Werner Loval who was in the
diplomatic service, and is now in property
and is doing well. Pamela was for many years secretary to the President of the
Hebrew University, they have four children, Jonathan, Benjamin, Debbie and Daphna. Robert or rather Robbie as he is generally known qualified
as a lawyer, married Ruthie, and has two children Danny and Michal. He chose to
enter the legal department of the diplomatic
service and took an important part in the Camp David, Geneva,
Cairo and New
York negotiations. He is at present Political Counsellor
to the Israeli Embassy in Washington (Robbie
now has Cabinet rank as Legal Adviser in Jerusalem).
The oldest son of the Sabel family is
Hyman. He went to the US
but was denied admission because he couldn't show sufficient money. Whilst
still in Ellis Island he changed his name to
Goldberg begged or borrowed the requisite finance and was admitted - or so the
story goes. He married and had five children, Rose (Silverman) deceased, Louis
(deceased), Jack (deceased), Alex who changed his name to Saybell
spelling it that way in order to ensure its proper pronunciation, and May Gutmann). Louis married Diane and is a lawyer/accountant
and lives in Sioux City.
Jack married Mary but had no children. Jack and Alex were partners in a
thriving electrical renting business in the heart of New York. May was married to Murray who died
quite young, and she re-married Walter Gutmann, and
are retired and live in Florida.
May had two children, Bill and Irene, by her first husband
My father Abraham was the second oldest and Barnett was
the next in age. He lost his first wife soon after they married and he
re-married to Minnie. Their family were Israel (Jim), Aby,
Charlie, Jack and Hannah. Jim and Hannah, I have already written of as the
partners of Kit and Louis respectively. Charlie was a particularly well liked
but had a heart condition. He was employed by the East Ham Electricity Co as a
clerk (towns had their own electricity supply, some producing their own, others
buying it from a central source). At the time I was still at school and he
would often treat us to the cinema known as the Queens in Forest
Gate which was the only cinema open on a Sunday. He was the first one to have
a gramophone - a beauty with a magnificent
horn, a crystal set, developed his own films, ran a "bank", and
gained a reputation for inventing apt phrases and catch words. He coined the
word "dub" for W.C. and came out with phrases like "aussi tot que" - see to the
crease. He left the Electricity company when Jim got him a job with Columbia Films, and he
was able to provide us with tickets for trade shows. He was introduced to Tilly and they married, and had a son Derek. They were I
believe reasonably happy and Tilly adored him, but
she and the in-laws did not hit it off, and made things very uncomfortable for
Charlie. Derek qualified as a dentist and is also married. Charlie's job at Columbia progressed to a
very responsible one and he was very highly thought of. Unfortunately he died
at a very young age and Tilly didn't survive him
long. Derek was aware of the strained feelings between his mother and the
Sabels, and has distanced himself ever since. Charlie was one of the most
popular men I know, and was universally liked by the opposite
sex. I still cherish a high regard for him and feel I
still owe him and his family a debt.
Jack was a different kettle of fish. He was good natured
and liked by most people outside the family. He was very good at all sports,
and his career included a spell in the Merchant Navy and the Army. He
eventually married Louise who was a cashier at a cinema in Wanstead which Jim
managed. She fell in love with him, and had a very good influence on him. They
had one son Clive who was very clever and won a state scholarship to
university. He went out to Rhodesia in
the capacity of an administrator and married Maureen. They have two sons. Jack died at the age of 69. Hannah was the
only girl, and prior to her marriage worked in an office.
Marx was the next brother in line, he married Becky Wright
and had a daughter Hannah and sons Sidney and Morty.
He worked in the workshop for a while as a tailor, then went to the US where Sidney
was born. Somewhere along the line he learnt ladies tailoring, but he wasn't
successful in America
and returned to the workshop in East Ham. Hannah married Mark Freeman who
managed a cinema. They had two daughters Joyce and Marilyn. Mark went to South Africa
after having a divorce and died there. Sidney
worked in an office for a while, he married Phyllis and had a daughter Valerie.
He then had a small menswear shop in Highbury but did not do well. After
serving in the Army he joined with Morty in a
successful men’s shop in Whitechapel where their father ran the tailoring
department. Valerie was a very attractive girl is married with a son and a
daughter. Sidney
died at the age of 69 while having a bath. Hannah died in December 1982.
Morty
married Lily Raingold who was a relation of the owner
of the menswear shop where he worked. He subsequently joined with Sidney in business. They
have one son Malcolm who is married to Sheila, but they have no children. They
also have a daughter Marcia who has been married, divorced and remarried and
has three children. Morty died at the age of 71 while
in hospital and the business including the freehold property was sold, but
Malcolm continued with a small adjacent shop which he
operated as a boutique.
Eva was older
than Marx and younger than Barnet, she like the others attempted to leave Russia at night
without exit visas and together with a group were stopped at the German
frontier and arrested. However the guide was able to supply the necessary bribe
and they were released and allowed to cross the border. After a long delay they
boarded a boat and came to England
to be sent to the shelter in Leman
Street where her brothers came for her. She was
about 17 at the time and about three years later married Harris Barst. He worked in the workshop for Father and Uncle
Barnet but at 36 he suffered a stroke which paralysed
him down one side. He was ill for twenty five years, twenty of which he
spent in the Tottenham Home for Incurables. I visited him with my parents and
remember that he had a very clear mind and took his misfortune very
philosophically. He died in 1936. After he had his stroke Eva opened a small grocery
shop in the East End but this didn't turn out a financial success and following
several moves my Father provided the family with a house in Gladstone Avenue
which he had bought and I gather the rent he
charged was one they could afford to pay. Harris had belonged to a friendly
society which in those days was the usual
method of working people to insure against
misfortunes of this sort, but the income received was never sufficient. The
eldest daughter Sarah married Jack Miller who was a tailor and made a living.
She was a very attractive girl and they had one son who did quite well in a
local job and was very devoted to his
parents. Somewhat late in life Jenny married Marcus who was a widower and had a
daughter Rene. He was a hairdresser in the West End
and due to trouble with his legs had
to give up working. He later died from
a thrombosis in the leg, although it was amputated. Louis was introduced to
Marie Cohen by Harry and Gladys and he also
married rather late in life. They have no children and Marie has a fine voice
and sang with the BBC Chorus and the Reform Shul Choirs. Louis being the only
son was a great help in keeping the family budget in credit. He had a good job
with a scrap merchants. Marie died from a stroke in December 1982. Alice was the youngest
and was born with no roof to her mouth. This was a great handicap to her and she was very conscious of her affliction.
She did hold down a job in the packing department at Harrods but she began to
suffer from constant headaches in later life and died at 69. She had a sad
life.
Annie was married to Maurice Rosenbloom
who worked as a machinist in the workshop, and they had one son Louis. Maurice
did not have good health and moved to Southend where
he opened a cafe/stall by the sea with the help of many injections of finance
from the brothers Abraham and Barnet. Louis was a competent violinist and ran
his own band. He appeared on the stage in an Archie Pit revue "Mr Tower of
London" in which Gracie Fields who was Archie Pit’s second wife, took the
star part. Here Louis met Archie's daughter by his first marriage, and she fell
in love with him and they married and had a daughter Jacqueline. The romance
soon wore off and they were divorced. Louis had given up his musical career and
helped with the family business in Southend. His
health deteriorated and although he remarried a lovely person named Dorothy, he
died at the age of 69. Maurice died at a comparatively early age but Annie
lived to a ripe old age. Louis' family still live in Southend
where Jaqueline married Maurice Swain and have two
daughter Carole and Janice.
Joe married
Annie Wright (Becky's sister) and was a tailor and started work in the workshop
when he arrived in England
from Russia.
He moved on to New York
and had two sons Mark and Sidney. Although they were there quite a long time
they never made out too well. Father and Barnet gave him the impression that he
could do better with them in London
and he came. I gather that he felt that he had been let down, and apparently
had different ideas of a way of life which he had expected to find. He soon
returned to New York
where he worked as an alteration tailor in one of the stores. It seems that
even this type of job offered a better standard of life than that enjoyed(?) in
England.
Annie had some family in New York
and this was a strong attraction for her. However Joe worked very hard and the
last time we saw them in 1966 he looked worn out. They
both died within a couple of years after.
Sam was the youngest son, but he was
never a worker and was regarded as being rather eccentric. He married a rather
nice woman, both rather later in life but in time to have two daughters. They
are very attractive girls but their mother died while they were still quite
young and one of them went to the Norwood
Orphanage. I believe they are both now in the US and doing quite well, but we
have no contact with them.
Hanky (Hannah) the youngest child was
born with a slight infirmity of a curved back arid lived with her parents in Philpot Street
until she was found a husband. They had three daughters all very attractive and
one named Bella contacted me when Morty died. She is married and is working in the clothing
trade, where her husband Manny Penner is a shop
steward; they live in the East End. All the
girls are married but ,their parents died quite young.
My paternal grandparents lived in Philpot Street from the time they arrived
in England.
Grandfather Benjamin David (Zada) was a tall upright
man with a long white beard. He would travel by district train from Whitechapel
to East Ham once a week, with a top hat and long black coat, and the staff at
East Ham Station got to know him and respected him. Looking back I realize he
must have called for his weekly allowance since the only occupation he ever had
was to act as "shumas" in a small shul and
sell kosher wine on commission. He died in his mid 70s from prostate trouble
which had been neglected, and at that time they couldn't treat. My "Bobba" was a small wrinkled lady with a "sheitle" and always had a supply of Russian type
sweets known as cherkerkeys to offer us when we
visited. She spoke very little English and was always telling us in yiddish that last night she nearly passed out - "a farbyicka", When she was widowed her mind went back to
her childhood days in Russia. She spent her latter years in a Jewish old age
home and died there in her 70s.
Of my Mothers relations in the US, we are still in
touch with Katie Berlyn and the younger generation. Hyman and Dorothy have two
sons Sheldon and Gerry, Hymie died quite young and
his widow lives in Florida in a house owned by Gerry. A cousin of his also
lives in Florida; he is Sydney Berlyn* who lost his first wife Lillian and has
remarried. Sydney died of a heart attack
in 1983 and Dorothy has since died. Katie visits her nephews during the winter,
the warm weather being very helpful in her somewhat frail condition. We have
largely lost touch with the others although we did come across a distant cousin
named Hammer while in Jerusalem. Their son had emigrated there and had
contacted Harry. They are one of the relations we met in Syracuse.
Eva Zolowski was a half sister who married Barnet Zolawski and lived in Barking. They had four children,
Jessie, Joe, Daisy and Annie. Barnet had a
modest menswear cum tailor repair shop with accommodation, but he paid his way.
Jessie married Max Jackson (later known as Mark) whom she met through their
mutual enthusiasm for dancing. He was a Master Baker having at one time several
shops and was prosperous. They have a son and daughter who are both married
with children. Max died in 1981.
Joe married a cousin Miriam but he died
relatively young. They had no children, he held down several jobs including
that of a bus conductor, and salesman in Harry's shop in Hammersmith. Daisy
spent most of her life in a mental home. Something went wrong at puberty and
her mind was affected. Her family tried keeping her at home but she could not
cope with the outside world and was happy to stay in the institution. Jessie and
Daisy are the only survivors of this family. Annie died in her 20s.
Milly was
the other half sister and she married Ike Weinstein. I remember acting as a
page boy at this wedding dressed as a shepherds crook. Ike was quite a
character and was renown for pinching the
girls cheeks with such a grip that they were bruised for
days afterwards. He was a very good cabinet maker and a real
tough guy. They lived in very poor conditions in the East End. They had a son
Myer (later known as Mick) and a daughter Doris. Mick was an owner taxi driver
and did quite well; he is now semi retired. Doris married a man much older than
herself but never seemed to have achieved much. Milly
and Ike are both now dead.
Betty's parents
came from Russia in similar circumstan